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Pseudo-relationships.

Pseudo-boyfriends.

Pseudo-girlfriends.

Flings.

Almost like a relationship, but not quite.

It is a phase where the persons involved
are more than friends, but not quite lovers.

Puwedeng may verbal agreement, puwedeng
wala.

One or both of you may have admitted
your feelings, possible ding hindi.

You just let your gestures do the
talking for you.

Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari.

Hindi kayo mag-dyowa.

Pero sa kilos niyo, sa mga sinasabi
niyo, parang kayo, pero hindi.

This kind of "relationship" can happen
at different stages for different reasons.

It can happen after a break-up.

You still love each other, and you want
to be with each other but you broke up
for a reason.

And for reasons that you alone know,
ayaw niyo na muna magkabalikan.

It can also happen before a
relationship, iyong pareho kayong
nakikiramdam.

Possible din na ayaw niyo munang
mag-seryoso kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna.

Testing lang. (tama ba un?!)

Puwede ring hindi puwedeng maging kayo
kasi isa sa inyo may ka-relasyon na.

Kaya habang hindi pa siya
nakikipag-break doon sa boy/girl (sabi
niya makikipag-break siya soon pero di
naman niya ginagawa), wala muna kayong
relasyon para nga naman hindi siya
nangangaliwa kasi "hindi naman kayo."

This pseudo-relationship stage, for a
time, can be fun.

Lalo na kung naghahanap ka lang naman ng
"KALARO."

Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may
patutunguhan kayo kase wala talagang
kasiguraduhan.

So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa
ganitong set up ganoong hindi naman
sigurado kung may patutunguhan?

Iba't ibang dahilan.

Puwedeng for fun lang.

Puwedeng "buti na iyan kesa wala" or
puwede na iyang "pantawid-gutom."

Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real
thing, doon muna sa kunwa-kunwarian.

For those who are not in a serious
relationship, they would think that
pseudo-relationship is better than no
relationship at all.

It would be fun, if all you're after is
that "kilig" feeling.

But then I learned that although it was
only a pseudo-relationship, the emotions
were real.

And usually, in this kind of set up,
merong malulugi..

"ung nainlove sa taong taken na.."

Una, you can't ask him/her to commit.

Since it's not really a relationship,
you can't demand commitment from your
partner.

Ano ba kayo?

You will always be uncertain about your
role in his/her life.

You can't expect him/her to be always
there with you.

And if you feel jealous of the other
boys/girls, you just have to keep it to
yourself.

Ano ka ba niya para magselos?

Pangalawa, what if you fall deeply in
love with him/her?
You can't be sure if he/she feels the
same w ay.

Baka nag-a-assume ka lang na mahal ka
rin niya.

Even if you are dying to tell him/her
you love him/her, you can't.

Because you're not sure if he/she will
like it.

Baka mapahiya ka lang.

This stage will always make you wonder
where you are in the relationship.

Or if there is a relationship at all.

Pangatlo, what if you become attached
too much?

What if you have invested all your
emotions and this man/woman hasn't?

What if you remain faithful to him/her,
not entertaining other guys/gals, only
to find out that he/she is seeing other
girls/boys?

Isa pang downside ng
pseudo-relationships, it is fleeting.

When a disagreement sets in, or when one
of you gets cold, then that would be the
end of it.

Unlike in a serious relationship, hindi
mo alam kung saan ka lulugar sa isang
pseudo-relationship.

Wala kang pinanghahawakan.

Kasi sa pseudo- relationship,

there is no "us."

Meron lang "you and me."